There are a large number of people who are eager to find the ideal person for a loving relationship and believe that it is this person who will fill the void they feel in themselves and make them happier and fuller.
Almost all of us grew up eating stories like Cinderella, which is unhappy and unfulfilled, and her life only makes sense when she meets the magical prince and then lives happily with him. Good luck with the story ending because it would not really be inspiring for the children to listen to the further development of this relationship. 🙂
If Romeo and Julia stayed alive, had two children, etc., the sequel to Shakespeare’s drama would not be too interesting, would it?
I really have nothing against Cinderella and Romeo and Julia. What I want to emphasize is the social conditionality that most people enter into a relationship, expecting their partner to be the “love panacea” – a prince or princess who will fill all the gaps in their lives – with the main focus on what they will gain from that relationship, rather than to be focused on what they want to give in that relationship!
You get what you give, and you give what you are!
If you are not happy and fulfilled with yourself, there really is no one who will make you happy without changing your way of life.
Every person you have been in a loving relationship with so far is an “ideal person” because such a person was a perfect reflection of what you were willing and willing to give at that moment – whether you were aware of it or not. to get to know yourself better and change what you don’t like about yourself.
Unfortunately, in general, we are not inclined to think that way. We prefer to comment with our friends on the bad qualities of our partners (current or former) and thus maintain and further strengthen our thinking patterns, which in essence make us unhappy and incomplete.
Do not waste your precious time looking for a partner who will fill the void you feel in yourself, but rather devote yourself to working on your personal and spiritual development and become the person you want to be with!
I know it’s neither easy nor simple. But, realistically, is there an alternative?